Breaking Up Relationships - Advice 101
(by: MsTigressLuv at AOL.com)

To You

The information contained below is a compilation of my support work from years of experience dealing with those in a break up, those trying to win an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back, or those trying to prevent a break up. It is meant to help you heal and recover from the hurt caused by the relationship breakdown, or to help you stop your break up and get your partner back. I hope that you will find it useful and help you mend that broken heart and feel free from the grief and sadness caused by the loss of your partner in your life.

Please remember, that the information included here consists of my personal experiences, as well as those of my network members, that has worked in each of our specific cases. THERE IS NO GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL FEEL BETTER AS, WITH ANY SORROWFUL EXPERIENCE, YOU WILL ONLY FEEL AS GOOD AS YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL. My intent is to help you understand your break up grief more. This information is given to you in hopes that you will feel better about breaking up with your partner. I also supply you with some very good links where you may gain insight, understanding, and comfort. Thank you for visiting Breaking Up Org

One piece of good advice before I go on, DON'T dismiss your pain and grief. Allow it to happen. When two people separate it is, essentially, the same as experiencing the death of the other partner. Only in death, the other partner did not purposely choose to abandon you or the relationship.

Table of Contents

* WHO I AM:

* WHY I STARTED MY LIFTED HEARTS MISSION:

* PREPARING FOR THE BREAK UP GRIEF:

* BREAKING UP FACTS--PHYSICAL

* BREAKING UP FACTS--EMOTIONAL

* BREAKING UP FACTS--HEALING

* BREAKING UP RESOURCES

* BREAKING UP LINKS

* THE LIFTED HEARTS NETWORK

* OUR BREAK UP COMMUNITIES

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>WHO I AM:

My name is Tigress Luv... better known as Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru. I started learning about break ups many years ago when I went through a very traumatic break up myself. I wanted to understand what was behind the tragic grief I experienced. After learning - and analyzing  - and investigating - and delving in, I began to understand and see break ups for what they really were. I knew break ups inside and out! I then started as a Community Leader and Advisor on the relationship break up boards at iVillage.

Not soon after, I started my own breaking up grief site called 'Tigress Den'.

Keeping up with my research I then began to understand the real pain of break ups, and how to cure that pain. I wrote my first book on the subject in the early 90's. Afterwards, I became an expert on people and what makes them 'tick'. This became a new book on how to Stop or Reverse a break up. Since then I have written on commitment phobia, and infidelity. Living through it all myself helped me to get even more valuable lessons and insights.

My webBooks to date:

* How to Win Back Their Attraction! ATTRACTION IS EVERYTHING!

How much of their attraction to you have you lost?

...maybe you have broken up
....maybe you are together but you sense that they're not attracted to you anymore
....maybe they just have become too familiar (or bored) with you...
....maybe things just 'stopped' after the baby was born
....maybe you have put on a few pounds 
....or maybe they just don't see you in 'that way' anymore

It doesn't matter; all you know is that they're not attracted to you anymore! But soon you'll discover just how easy it is to make them become massively attracted and hopelessly attached to you once again -
once I show you how! Read my latest eBook, How to Win Back Their Attraction here!

* Break Free From Their Spell! - and stop that magical hold they have over you...

* How to Get Over a Breakup - for healing from the pain of breaking up. See it here.

* How to STOP a Breakup- for stopping or undoing a break up and getting your boyfriend or girlfriend to come back to you.See it here.

* Why Women Love Bastards - A man's guide to holding his own power in a relationship.

* Why Women Dump Men - advice for men that explains the reason why they were 'dumped'.See it here.

* 101 Tips: The Insider's Secret on How to Become a Man Magnet  - tells you what really makes a man fall in love. See it here.

* Dream Chasers: The CP Addiction - for those who are in love with a Commitmentphobe. See it here.

* From Commitment Phobe to "I Do!" - a ten-step plan for winning your CP's heart and getting that long overdue & much deserved commitment. See it here.

* Why Women Cheat - tells you the real reason why women cheat on their men.See it here.

* FOR THE WOMEN I NOW HAVE THE ZODIAC MAN! This is a source of great advice for winning the heart of, or winning back the heart of, any man of the Zodiac.

*My Big FAT Breakup - A comical look at your ex and at breaking up. 

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>WHY I STARTED MY LIFTED HEARTS MISSION

I started the mission in hopes of stopping or preventing others from going through the terrible heartbreaking pain I had experienced. Being a very compassionate and empathetic person (overly so!) I cannot sit back and watch others hurt when I know I can help alleviate their pain. The support groups have all grown to where they are today - the most popular relationship support communities on the web!

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> PREPARING FOR THE BREAK UP GRIEF

I truly believe your attitude is one of your most overlooked secrets to a full recovery. Attitude is simply a matter of choosing how you will respond to any given situation. Life is constantly asking questions of you, and your responses are all-important. By choosing to change your negative approach to the break up, and replacing it with a positive, healthy attitude about life, your suffering, the past, the future, and your new–yet to be experienced–relationships, you can actually control the quality of the peace and serenity that can be found in any break up or divorce. Breaking up only hurts when we try to not hurt. Be willing to accept the break up and be prepared to hurt: this preparation, alone, will help diminish the amount of pain you will go through.

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>BREAKING UP FACTS--PHYSICAL

Expect some of the following physical signs of breaking up:

Some physical symptoms of a break up:

• sweating or rapid pulse
• increased hand tremor
• insomnia
• nausea or vomiting
• physical agitation / irritability or easily excited
• anxiety / panic
• chills and sweating / clammy skin
• loss of appetite
• cramps and nausea
• feeling of jumpiness or nervousness
• feeling of shakiness
• emotional volatility, rapid emotional changes
• depression
• fatigue
• difficulty with thinking clearly
• sensation of feeling the heart beat (palpitations)
• headache

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>BREAKING UP FACTS--EMOTIONAL

1. Denial and Isolation. At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our friends, family, co-workers, and social contacts. This stage may last anywhere from a few minutes to months, depending on each individuals grieving style.

2. Anger. After the reality sets in you might become very angry, even furious with your ex. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned or a man rejected. Most of us, too, will become angry with ourselves for letting the event take place, even to the point of blaming ourself for the entire break up. We inevitably go through the "if I only's" and  the "I should have or haven't done this or that's"... Anger is simply an emotion we have whenever we feel we have NO CONTROL over a certain situation.

3. Depression. We start to feel numb and turn into zombies. Our anger and sadness may still be there but remains hidden and masquerades as a depressed state. We barricade ourselves in our home or apartment, close the drapes, and refuse to get out of bed. We call in sick at work and cancel plans with friends. We only answer the phone in hopes that it may be 'them' calling, and when we discover it's not them the emotional roller-coaster cycle begins all over again.

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>BREAKING UP FACTS--HEALING

Acknowledge your grief over your break up. Breaking up is the hardest thing to do! But, denying your feelings is harder on the body and mind than going through them. Wallow in them if you want, wail out loud, punch your pillow, cry to your mother, write sad poems, let your heart mourn....it's your grief and it's very real. Allowing grief to surface is the only way to let it go. Without this difficult stage of the break up we could never move pass the loss. Don't feel pressured to hide or deny your emotions, but to accept them for what they are...  Breaking up hurts - and so do you!

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>BREAKING UP RESOURCES

From Commitment Phobe to "I Do"! A Strategic Ten-Step Plan for Getting Your Commitment Phobic Lover to Want to Make a Commitment - to YOU! READ IT ONLINE RIGHT NOW!

- StopABreakup.com
- AboutYourBreakup.com
- Abuse101.com
- Angel-On-My-Shoulder.com
- ArizonaUFO.com
- BorderlandBlues.com
- BreakingUp.net
- BreakingUp.org
- Break-Up.org
- BreakupBooks.com
- BreakupCommunity.com
- Breakup-Girl.com
- BreakupGuru.com
- BreakupMagazine.com
- BreakupQuotes.com
- Breakup-Songs.com
- BreakupPoems.com
- Breakups.com
- Breakups101.com
- BreakupsSuck.com
- Broken-heart.net
- Brokenheart101.com
- Brokenheartsville.com
- Codependency101.com
- Commitment-Phobia.com
- Commitmentphobia.net
- CunnilingusAcademy.com
- CP-Anon.org
- Dating-On-The.Net
- TheDumped.com
- eDumped.com
- FemaleSeductionGuide.com
- GettingAndStayingMarried.com
- GetYourGuy.com
- HopeCircle.com
- HowToGetYourExBack.net
- Infidelity101.net
- InnerSanctity.com
- Intimacy-And-Passion.com
- iSpillage.com
- KeepingTheLightOn.org
- LifeSaviors.com
- LiftedHearts.net
- LiftedHearts.com
- LongDistanceRelationship.net
- Love-Addiction.com
- LoveHurts.us
- LoveLore.com
- LoveSights.com
- MakeMoney-Online.net
- ManMagnet.net
- MendingBrokenHearts.com
- MyBigBreakup.com
- MyBoyfriendBack.com
- MyBreakupBlog.com
- MyBreakupSpace.com
- NiceGuysAndPlayers.com
- OnlineSnoops.com
- OverABreakup.com
- PreciousKingdom.com
- Rebound-Relationships.com
- RelationshipBookStore.com
- RelationshipDirectory.com
- RelationshipIssues.com
- RelationshipMessageBoards.com
- Shangri-La-Lost.com
- SocietySurf.com!
- StartABand.net
- SupportBuddies.com
- TheAriesMan.com
- TheBreakupGuru.com
- TheCancerMan.com
- TheLeoMan.com
- TheTaurusMan.com
- TheZodiacMan.com
- TiggyLuv.com
- UnbreakMyHeart.com
- Unityville.com
- WeightLossSecrets.net
- WhyMenCheat.net
- WhyWomenCheat.com
- WomenClique.com
- YourBrokenHeart.com
- YourGeminiMan.com

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>* BREAKING UP LINKS

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>* THE LIFTED HEARTS NETWORK
>* THE LIFTED HEARTS COMMUNITY

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>* OUR BREAK UP COMMUNITIES

The following forums are now available online and each come with their own webBooks:

• From Commitment Phobe to "I Do"! A ten-step plan for winning your CP's heart and getting that long overdue & much deserved commitment. READ IT ONLINE NOW!
• Stopping and Undoing Our Break ups: Comes with the webBook, This Side of Good-bye, an awesome and enlightening book on how to stop, undo, or reverse a break up
• Recovering from a Break up: Comes with the webBook, Lifted Hearts. Yes, breaking up hurts, but you can mend a Broken Heart TODAY!
• Becoming a Man Magnet: How to Make Any Man Fall in Love With You. Comes with the webBook, 101 Tips: The Insider's Secret on How to Become a Man Magnet  
• Why Women Dump Men: Comes with the webBook, Why Women Dump Men. Why did she break up with you? Forget what she told you, this webBook will tell you the Real Reason why you were dumped
• Why Women Cheat. For male victims of infidelity. Find out the Real Reason why women are unfaithful. Comes with two webBooks, Why Women Cheat, and Why Women Dump Men. Very enlightening!
• Why Men Cheat. This forum comes with webBooks on Narcissism and more, plus dozens and dozens of informative articles and research, and enlightening theories and inspirations! Also quotes, poems, etc...!
• Long Distance Relationship. 100% FREE forums and support group for those in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR).
• Special Breaking Up Board: Comes with message board forums.
• Precious Kingdom. Pet related community. Buy, sell, get valuable information for training, health care, and breeding tips.
• Musician's Community: Talk with other musicians; swap ideas; trade, buy, or sell equipment; learn how to Start a Band with the forum's webBook, "So You Wanna Start a Band?".
  
  
  OUR OTHER MESSAGE BOARDS

• Surviving a Break Up: Compassionate support forum for those going through a break up.
• Surviving Infidelity: Understanding infidelity and learning to trust again. Password needed to post but not to read. Passwords usually issued immediately.
• Long Distance Relationship: 100% FREE forums and support group for those in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR).
• Abuse Issues Forum: Get answers, understanding, compassion, and help here for abuse issues.
• Angel On My Shoulder: Forum and help for those experiencing the death or terminal illness of a loved one.
• Codependents Forum: Your place to ask questions and get answers about codependency.
• Commitment-phobia: Questions & Answers on commitmentphobia.
• Relationships: Salvaging your relationships, and working out problems.
• Lifted Hearts: Break up Board
• Saving Our Relationships: Trying to undo your breakup? This is the place for you!
• Mars and Venus Board! Got a rant about - or a question for - the opposite sex? Try our Mars and Venus Message Board and SPEAK OUT about what's on your mind or ask a member of the opposite sex a question!
• 18 - 25 By Age Support Forum: Talk to someone in your age bracket
• 26 - 35 By Age Support Forum: Talk to someone in your age bracket
• 36 - 45 By Age Support Forum: Talk to someone in your age bracket
• LoveLore: New Age Love & Romance, Astrology, Rune, Psychic, etc
• Weight Loss Secrets: Message board for those concerned with weight loss
• Breakup Songs and Sad Love Songs : Message Board Forum: Swap lyrics and get the latest and greatest breakup songs!
• How to STOP Your Breakup Community: Stopping break ups - strategies, tricks, and tips.
• How to Get Over a Breakup: Healing a broken heart. breaking up advice.